Events don't disturb people, their judgments do.
One day, a man rushed to Epictetus in a panic — his ship had sunk, his goods lost. Expecting sympathy, he got a lesson: 'Has something been taken from your character? No? Then all is well.' Epictetus believed that the stories we tell ourselves cause more suffering than the events themselves. To the Stoic, the world is neutral — the mind colours it.
Change your judgment, and you'll change your experience.
"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."